My favourite mom movies

After my last post I thought I’d give you a list of my favorite movies – those wonderful stories that have made me laugh, cry, dream, desire or think. I’ve always felt a connection with movies because they create a world that is wonderful, romantic, beautiful, and magical. Some of you might not know what you’ve been missing! Watching a movie is a special occasion for me as I try to watch them in specific times such as in the cozy afternoon on a freezing day or being alone on a Saturday night. I take a cup of hot chocolate and watch with passion the favorite movie because I feel that it is my definition of heaven. These movies give me inspiration, joy, and soothe my soul.
One of my favorite movies has been “The Shawshank Redemption” starring Tim Robbins and Morgan Freeman as two convicted men who spend their time in jail trying to find comfort and eventual redemption through simple acts of decency. The best part about this movie is the message of eternal hope. The main character, Andy Dufresne has been imprisoned for a crime that he did not commit. But he remains steadfast through resilience, patience, and wits that help to maintain his sanity. It also creates the hope that the spirit of a free man can never be crushed.
Romantic movies have always held a sway over my dreams. They helped me to show the type of house that I wanted and the way that I would dress. Moreover, they also helped to shape my personality. Sabrina (1995) is one of those romantic movies that have a classic touch with respect to its story, settings, and plot. Julia Ormond performs adequately as Sabrina as she makes the transition from a strange teenager to a beautiful woman with grace and elegance.
Another classic movie is Godfather (1972) that chronicles the fall and rise of the Corleone family as the aging patriarch transfers power to his successor. Godfather is a classic movie about a crime dynasty trying to save their clandestine empire through murder, deceit, deportation, and treachery. Marlon Brando and AlPacino deliver memorable performances. The character of Michael Corleone is depicted as he makes the transition from a normal young American to lead the life of a crime boss. Best of all, Godfather depicts a dysfunctional family that continues to struggle against powerful forces that conspire to seize their power as well as their inner tensions and contradictions.
Movies will continue to be my favorite form of entertainment. Whenever I watch a movie, it is as if I’m breathing, talking, and experiencing whatever the main characters are going through. Movies transform my personality and help me to overcome my inner struggles. Specifically, these movies help me to gain entertainment and recreation. I absorb myself into a fantasy world where I am free from all constraints and problems of life. The laughter, sadness, grief, anger, determination, dedication, and beauty are all elements of a good movie that also has well developed characters that are close to normal humans. Movies will always remain my favorite pastime because of their ability to give me a place to retreat.

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I have a confession

I have a confession to make. My favorite movie of all time is Finding Nemo. I even went out to learn the difference between a Ocellaris and Percula Clownfish. I can’t tell you how excited I am by the recent opening of its sequel Finding Dory.  I have not seen it yet because I hate spending that much at the theater, but as soon as it’s out on DVD this November, I will binge-watch it all weekend long.

It is a little embarrassing admitting this secret. The fact that I do not have any kids of my own gives me no one to blame for owning the various Finding Nemo memorabilia I hide whenever my friends come to visit. The only clue to my childish secret to the outside world is the orange Nemo keychain I carry attached to the half a dozen keys I own.

Now, do not get me wrong, I love a good action movie as much as the next guy. I mean, Blow has to be one of the best movies ever. Come to think of it, I think anything starring Johnny Depp is probably the best movie ever. He is some serious eye candy, no matter how old you are. Seriously, though, the scene where the main character, George, meets Pablo Escobar for the first time had me on the edge of my seat!

Like most women, I too love a good chick flick every now and then. Rainy Sunday afternoons are my favorite time to pop in a DVD and watch a When Harry Met Sally-type of a movie. I have quite a collection of sappy, romantic love stories, but one of my favorites is Crazy, Stupid Love. To be honest, as funny and predictable as this movie is, it makes me kind of thankful I never married. All that mid-life crisis stuff where couples decide they do not love each other after twenty years is just too harsh. Getting back to the movie, though, Ryan Gosling is easy on the eyes as he plays Jacob, a single guy whose only goal in life is to collect as many headboard notches as he can. He takes Cal (Steve Carell) under his wing to show him the ropes after Cal’s wife cheats on him and asks for a divorce.

I know a Cal or two in real life, and I have met more than my fair share of Jacobs in my 40+ single years, and that is why I think I like this movie so much. I can relate.

So, there you have it. A middle-aged woman’s opinion about some of her favorite movies. From the children’s movie Finding Nemo to action-packed movies and sappy chick flicks, I love a good movie, and I love sharing my thoughts on the subject even more.

Have you seen any good movies lately? I would love to hear which ones you enjoyed the most and which ones were better sleeping inducers than entertainment. Sometimes I have trouble falling asleep, so those particular ones could come in handy. Leave a comment below and let’s talk about it!

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After a call

Driving home from work, I just got a call from my husband – sorry, ex-husband – that I will have to pick up Leo from football practice. I can’t, I simply can’t. Between work, PTA meetings, dating sites, yoga and running the household, I simply have no energy. I throw off my shoes and sit down for a moment, head held between my hands. I take a deep breath. No, Tami, no. This is not the time to throw in the towel. You are forty, fabulous and fit. Go on, do it – egged my inner voice.
I muster up whatever little energy I have left and drive to Leo’s school. As I sit on the benches, I realize that it will take half an hour more for his practice to get done. What a lovely way to spend this evening, I thought. I whip out my phone and check my texts from dating sites.
Phil from the other night texted. That date was..not too bad. Not only did he continue to ramble about his ex-wife while I politely gulped down my wine as fast as I could, but he started crying towards the end. I kid you not, actual tears and snot. Still, other than that he wasn’t that bad, anyway. I texted him back, making plans to meet on Saturday night. He hasn’t replied. But before that, I must arrange for a babysitter.
Leo waves to me from the field. I wave back. Growing up without his father must be hard on him. Even I have to admit that my pig of an ex-husband was a great dad. I go back to my phone and open the new dating sites my co-worked Linda suggested.
Hello, fat balding man who likes to ‘hump for a living’. Pass. And you, pock-marked man who looks constipated and oh.. is in between jobs? Pass. Friend of my ex-husband. Pass. I give up. What is with these dating sites? I am pretty, independent and dare say, do not look 40! Why is it so difficult to find someone? Then I think. I will find love. If not today, someday. I just need to have faith in myself and the universe. There is something good for me out there.
More dating sites. This one looks good. I check out all the profiles of men between the ages of 40-50, religion/race/ethnicity no bar. There is one that catches my eye. Single dad, handsome, doctor, lives in…wait, that’s my neighborhood! Just then, Leo calls out to me. ‘Mom! Let’s go!’
I keep my phone inside my bag and go towards him. Just then, another kid’s dad comes right beside me to hand me something. ‘Ma’am, you dropped your wallet near those benches.’ I turn around and he seems familiar. Wait a minute, that’s the doctor dad I checked out on one of those dating sites!
‘Oh, thanks,’ I stammer out.
He seems charming. ‘Not a problem,’ he puts his hands in his pockets. ‘I say, are you Leo’s mom?’
‘Yes, I am,’
‘I’m Jeremy’s dad. I believe we live on the same street.’
‘I did not know that!’
‘Perhaps we could arrange a play-date for the kids someday.’
‘And a real date for us?’ I blurt out. He smiles. I hand him my card, and tell him to call me.
And at that moment, I am sure. I will find love. If not with this man, some other. But the universe has something beautiful waiting for me out there, and I can feel it. Love, here I come!

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An update

So Im a Polish single mother living outside of Poland with my daughter. Dating for me used to be a lot easier before I got pregnant and my husband left.After my husband had left I was kind of afraid to make new relationships cause I found my ex-husband on an online dating site.But now when couple of years have passed I started trying again, my current experience is only with Tinder, cause I didnt want to blow the bubble too big.So after those years of loneliness I finally made my profile, added couple of nice photos and at first just decided to see if anyone will notice me ( I made clear on my profile that I have a 2-year old son) or want to talk to me at all.It was actually pretty quiet some time in the beginning but after couple of weeks and more photos I started to get all kind of messages all of sudden.If I should be brutally honest – most of them were not even worth reading. There were many guys who literally asked for sex (I have heard before that this is pretty common on Tinder), others talked nicely at first but then it ended in slowly giving hints that they are only interested in sex too.Over the first 2 months I have found only 2 serious dates I have been going out couple of times for dinner and movies, but even they seemed not suitable for me, cause they did not seem responsible enough to take care of me AND my child.For now I have kind of given up dating, long story short – I did not find my luck or love of my life on Tinder. Maybe one day I will try again or try another dating site and maybe found someone who is interested in ME not my body!

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What people say

People often say that life begins at 40, as a single mother at 40, I conquer with that because getting back to the dating scene has been such a turmoil. Juggling with life,work and the children can be really tough and thus it has been hard finding quality prospects for dating. I feel too old to be chasing men and am also tired of the games. With my previous dating experience, I have with time raised standards and this has made it even harder to find a man who can measure up. Being self employed and working from home, my friends keep telling me that i need to go out there and meet new people but it is not as easy as they think, being a mother is almost a full time job. I have gained afew more pounds with time and many men dont prefer women with few extra pounds.I have tried online dating for about three months and I managed to go on three dates, the first two dates were a disaster but the third was not so bad. I’ve tried a lot of dating sites including okcupid and even a fitness dating site (in a desperate attempt to lost some pounds). I was almost giving up but with the successful third date,my perspective towards dating is changing. Online dating is more convenient for women of my calibre but of again someone must be careful. It is hard to find someone who can love you genuinely no matter your age,shape or body structure, some men are biased towards older women no matter how bad they look themselves, finding a man who is mentally mature and is able to spend time and let a relationship grow is also abit hard. Sometimes i feel like giving up completely on dating but the loneliness sometimes is too much and we all need that one person that can love, pamper and shower you with attention.

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The Day I Wore Makeup and a Newspaper Chaleko Vest

“Who should we sign up for Eco dude?”…. I wasn’t paying attention when we had our meeting regarding our Christmas party, one of the topics discussed was the Eco Dude and Chick contest. As I asked my colleague  on how did I get to be the Eco Dude I was surprised by their answer, as I was nominated and asked (by which I wasn’t paying attention that time), I answered with “Ha?”, I couldn’t remember what happened next, but they all considered that small reply as “Hai” or yes in nihongo, so I got signed up.

As the day of the Christmas party came, last December 18, I was surprised to find myself wearing a light makeup (the last time I could remember wearing makeup was when I was in elementary) and was more shocked as I looked at my outfit for the contest.

If batangyagit got to wear the 3k worth Loalde jacket he bought the day before, I’ll get to wear a 10pesos (estimated price) worth of Chaleko vest, made of newspaper and scotch tape. Though it is somehow stylish and cool, it is very itchy when worn. The contest was a cold one hour, as I only get to wear the vest and the tie without any undershirt, and walk in the stage and circle the crowd barefooted.

I couldn’t post my picture wearing this classy Chaleko vest, so I got my younger cousin to model my vest for my blog.

For anyone interested in this cheap but cool vest, you can write a comment in this post and I’ll let Cynthia(dressmaker and designer of the vest) contact you as soon as possible. ^_^

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The curly and spaghetti-like dilemma

 

It happened when I together with my office mates went out for dinner, I had the feeling that for some reasons most people would stare or glance at me, it made me curious but ignored it. It was around 10:45pm when I was finally going home after a long OT, that it happened again, only then it was frightening and eventually turned to a funny and humiliating experience.

Everyone was looking at me as I entered the bus, it wasn’t surprising as it normally occurs, what bugs me was a dark man wearing a cap, he kept staring at me, I even saw him smirk at me. I was nervous as thinking that the bus I was on would be held up and that the man staring was a robber. It was about 10mins since the bus left the terminal, I was still stiff and was preparing for the worst. I thought to myself, I won’t mind giving my phone since its old and it was almost of no use, what I was worried for at that time was my new wallet that I just received last christmas and my credit and ATM cards. I was about to break a sweat when I saw a lady, one row in front of me at the opposite side stared at me, by that time I noticed the man wearing a cap was already sleeping. My nervousness turned to curiosity as I wonder what could be the reason for two people to stare at a person, then as I looked at the mirror to see my reflection, looking for a dirt in my face, I saw my hair, it was no surprise it was a mess. It was like the curly tops, like a spaghetti or even more like a wig. =(

It was back to how its always been, every time it grows one and a half inches, it turns from unmanageable to unimaginable, the only fix would be to intentionally mess up my hair. Quite frustrating as I wasn’t this curly before. Back in elementary my hair was just a little wavy, I could even grow my hair long enough to reach my nose, but I wasn’t satisfied. I had my hair straightened, it lasted for about two months, then it returned to curliness and even worst. I couldn’t go back to re-straightened my hair  as the last experience bruised my scalp.

I tried my best to fix my messy hair that time. I know it’s funny as I am smiling now as I write this post. :D I hope I could get my haircut soon. Best hairdresser I know you ask? Not telling.

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Hello Earth, it’s me!

People often say that life begins at 40, as a single mother at 40, I disagree with that because getting back to the dating scene has been such a turmoil. Juggling with life,work and the children can be really tough and thus it has been hard finding quality prospects for dating.

I feel too old to be chasing men and am also tired of the games. With my previous dating experience, i have with time raised standards and this has made it even harder to find a man who can measure up. Being self employed and working from home, my friends keep telling me that i need to go out there and meet new people but it is not as easy as they think, being a mother is almost a full time job.

I have gained a few more pounds with time and many men don’t prefer women with few extra pounds.I have tried online dating (didn’t know where to start, match.com?!) for about three months and I managed to go on three dates, the first two dates were a disaster but the third was not so bad. I was almost giving up but with the successful third date,my perspective towards dating is changing.

Online dating is more convenient for women of my calibre but of again someone must be careful. It is hard to find someone who can love you genuinely no matter your age,shape or body structure, some men are biased towards older women no matter how bad they look themselves, finding a man who is mentally mature and is able to spend time and let a relationship grow is also a bit hard.

Sometimes i feel like giving up completely on dating but the loneliness sometimes is too much and we all need that one person that can love, pamper and shower you with attention.

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